Being highly intelligent and highly skilled will help on your path to success, but harnessing the power of emotional intelligence is the key to achieving life long success. IQ and technical skills are still important, but they are merely entry level necessities. In order to soar in life one must properly utilize emotional intelligence.
The five components of emotional intelligence or EQ are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. Mastering these five elements will help lead you to where you desire to be in life.
Self-awareness is knowing your values, drives, strengths, and weaknesses. This also includes knowing your moods and emotions as well as how they affect you and others. You must become a master of you. Learn everything about yourself. Know your habits and understand how you work. Know yourself in and out. When you fully understand yourself you are more likely to set yourself up for success rather than failure. You will know when to ask for help and when you can handle things on your own.
Self-regulation is the ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods. This also includes the ability to think before acting and resist judgment. Essentially it is the conversation we have with our inner conscience. Someone who is good at self regulation is open to change. We all experience negative things in life, but it all comes down to what we make of it.
Motivation is a drive to pursue goals with persistence and energy. It is a passion to work for reasons beyond status or money. People who are motivated have a strong drive for achievement. When you’re motivated you are optimistic, even after experiencing failure. Motivation also keeps you committed to the pursuit of your goals. It is basically impossible to achieve anything without having a base of motivation.
Empathy is the ability to understand the emotional being of other people. Someone who understands empathy considers other’s feelings. Without empathy our relationships would never grow. When we understand others we get a look into how they see things thus allowing us to better conduct ourselves with them.
Social skill is the ability to build relationships and develop networks. Having good social skills helps us connect with others and build rapport. Social skill is much more than being friendly; it is being friendly with a purpose. This allows you to effectively lead others, move people in the direction you desire, be persuasive, and build teams.
Having a strong IQ and a multitude of skills is very important, but the makeup of a successful person is not complete without the cornerstone, emotional intelligence. This is a concept that can be learned and refined throughout life. The benefits that come with strong emotional intelligence are crucial for success in all areas of life.