We live in a world of endless possibilities, but so often we place limits on ourselves and what we can achieve. Life comes at us and it is our job to interpret it into our own story.
Learned helplessness is a concept that plagues the lives of so many of us. It is the idea that we cannot control the situation we are in so we give up and become passive to what happens to us.
We say we cannot do things because of the situations we are in. Some of us have accepted that we are not good students so we just stop trying in school. We think we are not good enough to have a relationship with someone so we do not pursue it. We think we might not be qualified for a job so we do not even bother applying for it. Normally we choose the path of least resistance where we assume failure is unlikely. The main driving force behind these beliefs is often an unconscious fear of failure.
The sooner we can identify these confinements the better. They can hold us back and keep us from being our true selves. Limits do not let us reach our greatest potentials.
Right now I am reading The Art of Possibility by Benjamin and Rosamund Stone Zander. It is all about embracing the world of possibility and simple practices we can adopt to make that process easier. In the book the authors state that since we are constantly creating ideas about the world around us we might as well create ideas that promote growth rather than inhibit it.
The limits we place on ourselves take over as the author of our life story. Take back the pen and write your story the way you want it to be.